The longer I think about writing something, ideas seem to bundle up in my head, bottlenecking at the narrow throughway of whatever region in my brain is responsible for second-guessing myself. It’s some common advice, but my friend has set a very tangible example for me to follow: start small. So here I am, trying to write in under 30 minutes and less than a novella.
I’ll never forget this textbook explanation about children with ADD abandoning a task:
Let’s say that children have messy rooms. One parent tells the child to clean the room. Without glee, and with some coercion I’m sure, the kid begins to put toys away in the chest – one by one. Children with ADD are likely to look at the mess before them, and become so overwhelmed that they feel this task is impossible – which usually results with a tantrum of some sort, refusing to clean the room.
What the book explains is that we all shift our perspectives back and forth between big picture and little details. Working on a large task requires you to shift your attention to the little detail required to begin the task — the “step one” of getting it done. I think our understanding of ADD is (or wasn’t) very refined and this difficulty applies to just about anyone. I never get around to writing because it seems impossible to encapsulate whatever I’m thinking about into a digestible, relatively short blog piece. When I do get started, I have just as much difficulty shifting my attention back to the big picture, and as you can see right now, end up following one thread to the death. Whew! Okay. End thought.
Goal #2: Keeping it small
I will spare you, dear reader, and cut this short. This was a nice little post about starting to write (I’ve done this before); I hope that I come back again tomorrow and write again. Here’s to more interesting topics!
Did you know that our planet used to have forests of giant mushrooms? #coolstuff
Some highlights include:
Chinese culture doesn’t make a big deal of meeting strangers nearby through social apps.
CAPTCHA utilized on login screens (not just signup flows).
People really do use QR codes!
Moments – Just scroll to this part. I really dig the philosophy.
After experiencing a cat café, David and I decided we had to experience an owl café. For about $20 you can spend an hour hanging out with a variety of owls. You can pet them – gently, on the head only – and hold them or set one on your shoulder. I held a little one, and put one of the big ones on my shoulder. It’s one of those (many) experiences I’ve found that can’t be captured in pictures, but I certainly tried!
David and I woke up early to see the Ghibli Museum, but it was closed! That’ll teach us to plan ahead. It’s closed every Tuesday (the day we went), and you have to buy advance tickets too. So we checked on tickets but they were sold out for the week. I was really bummed out as this was the one main thing that I wanted to see in Japan; the rest was just free exploration.
Walking back to the subway, David decided to look up Cat Cafés and there was one only a few blocks away featuring exotic cats. Let me just say that an afternoon with cats quickly erased any disappointment about the missed Museum visit.
I know that’s not the most profound statement, but it’s probably the most appropriate.
I’ve wanted to go to Japan since at least my teen years, but until recently it was a vague goal of mine — I’ll be there some day. With a new job in New York and a couple of interested friends (Chris and David), I was finally able to save for and plan a two-week trip to Japan.
I’m going to skip the beginning. Suffice it to say that it took a while to find currency and then transport to our hotel for the first night. Oh yeah, and I’m not even counting the first night in Japan… that was just bizarre channel surfing and passing out at 4am.
First full day
David and I checked out of the Metropolitan Hotel Tokyo at noon, left our luggage in the lobby, and began wandering Ikebukuro — the neighborhood. We had a few hours before the apartment we rented would be ready, so we walked in no particular direction, in search of no particular thing, and discovering everything. Literally everything is interesting, stimulating, and new to me. It’s so much that I don’t know where to begin.
A palpable air of etiquette weighs over me in every circumstance. Oddly enough, my best reference is that of visiting my grandparents. They were the sweetest, kindest people, but you definitely knew to be very polite and respectful. It’s the same in Japan. No one asks me to act a certain way, and there isn’t even a hint of an admonishing glance when I may be less than polite, but know very well to be on my best behavior. Buying some snacks at a 7-11 is an awkward exchange of bowing my head excessively, presenting my money, receiving change as though it’s a special gift, and saying ありがとう as I bow out.
For the first time in my life I am a distinct minority. It feels like the city is 99% ethnically Japanese. I notice one white person in a shop and she immediately stuck out. After using the bathroom and seeing myself in the mirror, I had this instant self judgement of “oh wow you are so white.” I have never felt that before and I’m immensely grateful to Japan for giving me this context and experience. In Spain for a year I felt just like another person, and in Costa Rica during a few months I did feel different, but not extremely so. While it’s clear that the physical differences are much more dramatic in this setting, I think the start cultural contrast is what heightens my awareness of this distinction. In other countries I’ve visited or lived, I knew the language (Spanish) and felt at least partially assimilated. Here, everything is different.
I think I’ve talked to all my friends about Japan before leaving and have heard plenty of their stories or stories of friends’ trips… so I have difficulty giving credit when due. Someone told me that you might notice how some foreigners come to New York City and take pictures of seemingly every little thing, despite finding that a bit amusing, you’ll soon be doing that yourself when you go to Japan. It’s so true! I have heard that the Japanese don’t particularly like it when you just walk around with your cellphone out the whole time, so I consciously keep it in my pocket, but sometimes I’ll stop to capture unique advertising, street signs, or anything uniquely Japanese. I’ll try to include a few examples below, but believe me, there’s more of this on Path, Instagram, Twitter, etc etc…
The AirBnB apartment that the three of us are splitting for our stint in Tokyo is located in the Shimokitazawa neighborhood. I posted some information about the area that I found during trip planning: here. The descriptions don’t do it justice. We are in an amazing location! Describing it as “hip” is a start, and comparing it to Brooklyn’s Williamsburg / hipster neighborhood is fair, but this place is a perfect concoction of cool. Everyone has different taste and values different types of space, but for me, this is perfection. It’s dense, but extremely clean, relatively quiet (read: chill) for a bustling Saturday night, and heavily sprinkled with the salt and pepper of restaurants and shopping that I love; the first being distinctively Japanese, small, low-lit, and – by appearances – delicious, while the latter is eclectic, normal/high-priced (comparing to NYC), and heavily infused with American fashion. Most people are my age (I guess) but you see a few grannies shuffle by as well. I wish I had pictures of the area and I will try to take some when I go out tonight, but I am even more conscious of being a photo-snapping tourist when I’m in such a cool neighborhood.
In short, New York has been good “training wheels” for Japan, and as the metaphor suggest, easily pales in comparison. Yes, if you want diversity, New York is the best, but given that Japanese is 100% different for me, Tokyo easily wins my heart.
It reminds me of how I felt moving back home from Barcelona after a year: nothing compares to European cities, so I guess New York is the next best I can find in the USA. After living in NYC for a few years, it now feels like home and much more than a city-substitute, but Japan has awoken that sense of comfort, quality, and ease. I don’t know why, but those are the words that come up when I think of how foreign cities make me feel. I think in some aspects they certainly do things “better” but I’m mystified how I can feel so comfortable in the unknown. I might take forever to deliberate a big purchase or make my next career move, but if a life abroad were offered to me, I’d have no qualms in packing it in and moving to wherever that may be. I have roots in New York now, so that wouldn’t happen, but if I had a job, money for an apartment, and if Mary could come, then I could probably go anywhere. No problem.
Back to the trip, sorry.
Chris will arrive late tonight and join us at the apartment. I plan on finding some dinner around town, and maybe late night exploring if someone is willing to come out with me. Tomorrow should be full of wandering and maybe some specific sight-seeing.
If you’re reading this and you know me (probably anyone reading this), I do have mobile wifi so you can reach me through iMessages, FaceTime, or snail mail – aka social media.
[…] The steam from the coffee rose slowly and mingled with the breath from my mouth. On the school playground that lay squashed between two blocks of flats twenty meters up from my office the shouts of children suddenly fell quiet, it was only now that I noticed. The bell had rung. The sounds here were new and unfamiliar to me, the the same was true of the rhythm in which they surfaced, but I would soon get used to them, to such an extent that they would fade into the background again. You know too little and it doesn’t exist. You know too much and it doesn’t exist. Writing is drawing the essence of what we know out of the shadows. That is what writing is about. Not what happens there, not what actions are played out there, but the there itself. There, that is writing’s location and aim. But how to get there?
You know too little and it doesn’t exist. You know too much and it doesn’t exist.
Karl Ove Knausgaard, My Struggle
I didn’t make this as universal as possible, it’s actually for a specific shopping scenario, but if it helps your decision by some chance then all the better!
I’m on a shared/family plan with a total of three lines and three iPhones. All are due for an upgrade (although we might just upgrade two of them).
Average data consumption is a bit over 3GB, so any plan needs at least 4GB of data. Average call time per month is about 1,200 minutes total, but nowadays all carriers have unlimited calling and texting as we shift to a data-only model. Lastly, each person would be upgrading to the iPhone 6 with 16GB storage.
Lastly, I didn’t include the trade-in discounts with the grand totals, but you can find the respective trade-in offers in the “fine print” at the bottom of the chart.